WHERE IS THAT MONK?

Its an old story which I read in my childhood.
Ramakrishna, Master of Swami Vivekananda was a famous godman who actually practiced and realised the essence of all the religions. It was told about him that he did never touch money or any sort of wealth anyway. Vivekananda went curious to know the reality of this fellow. He put a coin under his bed. So when Ramakrishna sat on his bed, suddenly he stood up as if he got an electric shock. He saw Vivekananda and smiled at him, as he loved his questioning nature.
So the thing he conveyed was he was above all the desires and greed.

"Where do we find a monk like this nowadays?" 

"Why do these people ruin the whole bloody philosophy of Religion or say Spirituality?"

I have come to a conclusion I want to share, after reading much about the "Godman", "Guru" or spiritual men.

Being a Hindu, and from a religious and god fearing family I have experienced some of the great legacies of Hinduism and spirituality.

The starting of a religious practice is really very enthusiastic as every new work a human mind reacts to. 

Gradually, what happens is, the mind craves more for all the things which one sacrifices in his "sadhana"(spiritual practice).
There can be two Godmen, one who was never introduced to the matter since his birth and kept in some God making institution or the one who suddenly got devoted to some ideology to be monk.

In first case, a man who forcefully kept away from sensual experiences, becomes more curious to obtain whatever he has never felt, because senses will do their work, they will ask for it, and if not given they will rebel and even if he live forever detached, he will live a miserable life full of mental complexities.
In the latter case, as it all starts from detaching oneself from worldly things, matter or desires, the mind (which was so used to of everything that we used to be) feels it hard to keep away from what body is not given, it wants its routine, it wants its normality that was there for years.
No matter how hard a monk tries to get away from habits, they exist in his mind, even stronger, and soon if he sees a beautiful woman, a tasty food or a luxury his mind hits him harder desires keep on burning, no matter how hard he practices celibacy, non-attachment or starves his body by eating grasses.

Osho aka Rajneesh has a beautiful theory about monks. He has given example of the very basic Hindu philosophy which built four stages in a man's life : BRAMHACHARYA(Celibacy), GRAHASTHA(Wordly life), VANAPRASTHA(Giving up Worldly life) and the SANYASA(Renunciation).

According to that theory, first 25 years of human life are of learning and staying away from sensual and worldly desires (Celibacy). After that, 25 years (GRAHASTHA) were said to be of work and enjoyment with following one's responsibilities towards family which were followed by 25 years of VANAPRASTHA, stage where one retires from work and his worldly desires and contributes more  to the society and his grandchildren. Finally, man ought to leave his all bonds and strive for his self realisation and sadhana in the remaining time of SANYASA.
Osho states that our mind can not be detached to something until it has experienced it enough. You cannot be free from a desire until you have gone to its extremes.

You can not leave hunger until you had food. Also, you can not feel hungry after eating enough, no matter if you were served your favourite cuisines of the world, you just had enough and you won't feel like eating! Our mind easily leaves thoughts of something after we had all of it.
The same is with the senses. A monk who came out of the world without having fully tasted it,
will never be able to go free of it, no matter how far he seems to be.

We see Monks, BABAs and spiritual leaders, who preach about "how meaningless the world is" and "how baseless is our lust", going out of their ways to have it and even find themselves raping juveniles. When we watch their lives, we see a common man living a better life than them, even being into the world with all his self.

So, Ramakrishna was a married man without any materialistic life, lived in a simple way with no complexities, preached his disciples to be better in what they are and serve the world. He never built any charitable fund, or monastery. After he passed away, his disciples, led by Swami Vivekananda, went on building "Ramakrishna Mission" a non profit body that do social work.
In 1928, French (Nobel Laurent) author Romain Rolland wrote a book on Ramakrishna called "La Vie de Ramakrishna".

His message was "Serve the mankind with the knowledge of supreme".

In Search of HAPPY(ness)

Happiness is the nature of our very soul. It is going nowhere, having nothing but being in ourselves.

Leaving aside all the grudge, prejudices or worries results in a state of mind which we call happiness.
There may be a million reasons for happiness to all and a million different ways to each of them. One can not assert their happiness to be certain or best among all the others.
A child smiles by seeing a blinking star, or playing with a ball, or even just looking at a random stranger. Whereas an adult may not be happy getting all the wealth of the worlds .
Because nobody bothers about the source, they all are busy in finding the cause.
A bulb may lit the light , but it cannot be said the source of light.
So in a single sentence we may conclude that "Happiness lies within".
Being true to ourselves, doing what we really love, having less amount of worries and being physically , mentally and emotionally healthy is what helps you be in sync with your inner self, but above all, the purity.
We see many wicked people around us, who appear to be enjoying more than us, having wealth of a king. But if we try to analyse their lives with a keen eye, we'll get to know they have more fears of being caught, more wicked to deal with, less sleep in their velvet cushions .
The amazing misconception about happiness is that it has something or anything at all to do with the amount of wealth you possess. Bear in mind, I bet I have seen more wealthy people unhappy than the "so called" average people.
Its about survival, you need to have some stuff with you so that you may survive on the earth, but its not the only motive of our lives.
Love is the reason we may lose anything and feel no regret about it. Its good to have love in life. But what if we don't get it back ?  Or can't find . There are people, who are nice and wise and all,  but they don't  have someone to open their hearts to. Then how to be happy without having that happiness depend on anyone else ?
The answer is, find it somewhere else. There is always a way out there. We need to find it , yeah a bit hard but what's the point of a life without having to deal with challenges?